Potential Courtship, A Date with Serious Intentions, Marriage Minded
Single – Never Married
Orthodox Presbyterian Church (OPC)
Southern Oregon University
|Level of education||
A prominent one
|Seeking Ethnicity (those I am willing to date)||
|My ideal place to live||
|My view on smoking||
I might not mind a pipe or cigar
|My view on drinking||
I drink regularly, in moderation
|On the subject of children||
I would like to have children one day
|Tell us about your family. How do you feel about relocating?||
The thought of relocating isn’t too bad right now, having recently done so and quickly made most excellent friends. I may feel differently as my roots get deeper here.
The sad thing about moving away from family and friends comes to me by the Lewis quote:
“In each of my friends there is something that only some other friend can fully bring out. By myself I am not large enough to call the whole man into activity; I want other lights than my own to show all his facets. Now that Charles is dead, I shall never again see Ronald’s [Tolkien’s] reaction to a specifically Charles joke. Far from having more of Ronald, having him “to myself” now that Charles is away, I have less of Ronald…”
But come on now, we’re not talking about death. We can talk across the country, and even across the sea. Thank you Internet!
|How old were you when you were drawn to Christ and how is your Christian walk these days?||
I was probably about 12 when I was saved. I don’t remember the exact moment, but that was the year I had a consciousness of the Gospel. I had been baptized at six years old.
|How have the Doctrines of Grace changed or affected your life?||
It is a supreme comfort to know that what’s ultimately deciding my fate is not some random decision generator of my autonomous free will, but the holy, wise, immutable, loving will of my Father. Just as He made certain my heart would change so that I would choose Christ, He keeps my heart from choosing to leave Christ.
As a young child, before I understood these doctrines, I was afraid I would choose to rebel, just like Lucifer, either in this life or the next. I now know that the elect humans (Rom. 8:29-30) and angels (1 Tim. 5:21) are being guarded by God’s power against falling away (1 Pet. 1:5).
|Do you have a "Quiet Time?" What are you studying?||
Most days of the week I read a few chapters of the Bible.
|Who is your favorite Biblical Character and why?||
Perhaps the Apostle John. The narratives of the Gospels don’t show a whole lot of maturity from him, but his own writings indicate a very sober, reverent, level-headed wisdom and elderly spirit. It’s inspiring to see how much a disciple can grow.
|Are you content being single? Why? If not, why?||
If by content it is meant not minding a bit one’s situation, of course not. Why would I have an account here? If content means lacking bitterness or feelings of entitlement towards God, and trusting in His provision–yeah, most of the time, after lots of refinement.
|What are four qualities your friends would attribute to you?||
|What are three things you are most thankful for?||
|Describe the character and personality traits you enjoy in another person? What are yours?||
Truth be told, the girls I’ve liked have been very different from each other. It’s hard to find some common personality type in what I’m seeking.
I am enchanted by a rendering of the Hebrew phrase in Proverbs 31:10–a woman of valor.
I don’t expect a mate to be just as interested in deep theology as I am; I just want her to have a good head on her shoulders, a significant attention span, and an ability to reason well.
You could probably describe me on many days as a rambling nerd, though I aspire to be a smoother orator. Some days I fake it pretty well.
|Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and how?||
One elder at my church has particularly shepherded the direction of my theological development. His personality is very different from mine, but the examples of him and his wife have been outstanding.
As for published writers, my top four:
|What contributed to your previous relationship/marriage ending?||
In the end, she told me I was too much of a Westminster Presbyterian. I knew from the outset we disagreed on the issue of baptizing babies. What was shocking was when I found out she didn’t want to have babies. That was the biggest flashpoint issue. She’s a wonderful person, but influenced by a different theological tradition.
|How long have you been on your own since and what did you to do get through it?||
That was years ago. I coped by focusing on how great it would be to not have to deal with those differences between us anymore. The breakup wasn’t nearly as bad as some friends have described theirs.
|What type of work do/did you do?||
I’m a software engineer. It’s very satisfying.
|How long have you been/were you in that line of work? Do/you enjoy it?||
It feels like my true vocation involves theology and apologetics. Most definitely I want to go to seminary and am saving to do so within a few years. Probably I should be a pastor, though the social aspect of it is daunting.
|Do you have any life-long goals? What are they?||
If I were to pursue a career in professional theology, I would like to compose a modern Institutes of Elenctic Theology, responding to modern doctrinal movements. No, I have not finished Turretin’s, though I have the three-volume set.
I’ve often wanted to take part in an epic love story, worthy of highlighting in some popular fantasy book or video game. However, at this age God has taught me to better appreciate the “mundane,” so if I’m going to meet a wife not on some perilous battlefield during a chaotic political circumstance, but rather something like…I dunno, a dating site, I’ll be fine. One of my favorite Bible verses is Jeremiah 31:22. I don’t know what it really means, but it’s fun to hijack it out of context.
Dying well is important to me. I hope my death is preceded with a long life of faithful service, using my gifts to honor God and help my neighbors.
|Where were you born and where have you traveled?||
I was born in the Pacific Northwest. I was in Japan for a few months when I was three. There was a cruise in the Gulf of Mexico some years back. For half a year I lived alone about 40 miles from my parents’ house. For months at a time during college I sporadically lived with roommates around 50 miles from my parents’ house. A few times I’ve visited my sister and friends in the South. I’ve recently relocated there.
|Is there anything that the questionnaire didn’t cover?||
Something very important to me is truly understanding why people believe what they believe. Almost nothing makes me cringe more than hearing someone say “how could ANYONE believe THAT?”, whatever the position may be. Even if the belief seems ridiculous or morally abhorrent to me, I understand that we all have long journeys that have led to our current convictions. There’s a compelling story behind every doctrine, however wrong the conclusions may be.
Part of this is because some of my theological positions are a minority in the Reformed world, and probably considered fringe or dangerous by some. You ever been in that awkward position in a conversation at church where someone goes “can you believe those weird people who think THAT?” and you slowly raise your hand “uuhhhh, yeah; here’s one…” ? It’s important to me to be kind and concessive. That doesn’t mean I can’t be sarcastic and make playful jabs at opposing doctrines…all in good fun.
I loathe hearing straw men attacked, so I really want to understand the strongest formulation of a position with which I disagree. Perhaps I’m like a saiyan from Dragon Ball Z; I long to fight my opponents in their most powerful form. Only then can I know my position is superior.
Jesus saved me and put me into a Christian family.