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Bygracereformed

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Bygracereformed

Gender

Male

Country

United State

State

Alabama

City

Anniston

Looking for

A Date with Serious Intentions, Marriage Minded

Marital Status

Single – Never Married

Christian Affiliation

Reformed Baptist

Race

Caucasian

Height

5' 10"

Build

Medium

Eye Color

Brown

Hair Color

Dark Brown

Graduation Year

2001

Level of education

Associate Degree

Employment

Full Time

Occupation

Electronics Mechanic

Company

Not Stated

Seeking Ethnicity (those I am willing to date)

Caucasian

My ideal place to live

A farm/cottage in the country

My view on smoking

I am a non-smoker

My view on drinking

I don't drink, but don't mind others drinking in moderation

On the subject of children

I would like to have children one day

Tell us about your family. How do you feel about relocating?

I am the oldest of 5, I was blessed to be born into a family with a Godly heritage. Family is incredibly important to me, first my actual physical family and family as a institution. As an institution it is the picture that God decreed to reveal certain truths. So much theology and doctrine is wrapped up in the symbology of the family unit.

 

Relocating could be difficult at this time. I recently purchased 23acres that I am working to turn into a small cattle farm. It is land wise basically what I have been looking for years, and it is a place I would like to raise children and a wonderful place to establish a homestead together with a wife.

 

That being said, if God were to lead me to a wife where I had to relocate, then I trust that he would provide the way and means to do so. Because in the end the old adage that home is where the heart is rings true. God has provided me with a beautiful property, but it is just a place. A God fearing wife and children mean far more to me than a piece of land and though my true home is a heavenly home, my earthly home will always be with family.

How old were you when you were drawn to Christ and how is your Christian walk these days?

My being drawn to Christ was more of a drawn out drawing so to speak. Being raised in a Christian home, I was naturally exposed to the Gospel from birth, and came to the awareness of my sinfulness at young age. I made a profession of faith at that age. As I grew older though if you had asked me if I was a Christian I would have affirmed it yet I confess mostly my heart was not to Christ.

 

My conversion was not a Damascus road event where I was going along my merry way and wham bam the Lord blinds me and knocks me to the dirt. No it was more prolonged than that, and when I was about 25 the Lord brought me to the point of submission and the awareness of having no hope outside of Christ. Falling on my face before God crying out for mercy and salvation and receiving peace marked a decided change in my life. (For you must be born again to enter the kingdom of heaven)

 

Having said all that, In my Christian walk I am only perfect in God’s eye because of the imputed righteousness of Christ.  My Pilgrims journey is plagued with trips and falls like a child learning to walk. I understand why so often we Christians are referred to as children, that is very often how we act.  Sometimes we take out running only to fall face first, sometimes we throw a tantrum, and sometimes we just plop down in the mud and play.  What I know too, is when we fall God picks us up, when throw a tantrum he reminds us of all the blessings he has bestowed on us, and when we play in the mud he snatches us out cleans us up, and yes there maybe some discipline, but He disciplines the ones he loves (Hebrews 12:5-6).  So, by no stretch of the imagination am I perfect, but by the grace of God I will grow in Chist more today than yesterday and have faith that I will grow in Christ tomorrow.

How have the Doctrines of Grace changed or affected your life?

There is hope defined in the Doctrines of Grace. I was raised and taught them since I was a child, but having a knowledge is a far cry different than the peace that passes all understanding when you believe and rest in the knowledge that God is good, just, and righteous and He has decreed the end from the beginning.

 

I have hope and peace because I believe (and Lord help thou mine unbelief) that He has first His own glory and then my eternal good in mind. Any heartaches, trials, and difficulties or pain in this sinful world we live are but a brief momentary affliction. The end will be that God is glorified by His work in us and will have done good to us. Even when we don’t realize it.

Who is your favorite Biblical Character and why?

Like most everyone on here, there are to many to list or default to Paul. So how about I give ones that I have an affinity for.

 

Peter and Samson, I know, an odd pair it seems, but I do feel some similarity with them. Both are at times brash and impetuous (I mean seriously Peter did cut a guys ear off) both a little stubborn….. okay one maybe way stubborn, and thick headed too….. really Samson what were you thinking.

 

Here is what I love about both of them though. God had a purpose for them, despite them being flawed individuals. God used them in their flaws even using their flaws to His own purpose (especially as we see with Samson). And in the end they were both men of great faith, flawed yes but also hero’s of faith too.

 

So yeah, to my own embarrassment, I do see some of that brashness and impetuousness in my own life. Yet, I still can hold to that hope that in spite of my flaws, because God is much greater than any of my flaws (He can draw a straight line with a crooked stick),  that I will serve His purposes and He will be Glorified through the work that He has wrought in me……. I do take joy also in knowing that though flawed the Lord has not abandoned me forever. I imagine Samson thought himself abandoned and despised by God as he blindly tread the grain like a beast of burden. Even then God didn’t abandon Samson, no instead after God had allowed him to be completely humbled almost beyond measure, Samson was given a victory so great in his death that it surpassed all the other martial feats combined…. He is a hall of famer for a reason, and kind of makes ya think.

Are you content being single? Why? If not, why?

This is a question that I think many of the people on here may have struggled with. I know what I am supposed to say, “oh, of course I am content and happy in singleness but if God gives me a wife”. It wouldn’t be completely true if I did. Is it sinful of me……….. I am unsure. There are pictures of contentment we see in the Bible of course and then we know how God views grumbling and complaining. I think maybe the bigger question should be, can we be submissive to God and be satisfied to wait on the Lord to provide in His time. And to ask for grace to persevere if it is not His will.

 

That may not be much different than being “content”, I think the difference lies in that being content almost feels like saying I care little either way.

 

I do care but I do want to be completely satisfied in the will of God.

 

If He has willed for me to be single then I pray that he will provide the mental and spiritual fortitude to continue to be satisfied in Him. Especially as it is against my nature. If that is the case then I trust wholly in Him to provide as He is my provider of all good things.

 

If he has willed for me to be married, then I seek diligently for patience for His wise timing. To patiently wait as he better prepares me to be a husband and father and as he better prepares the future wife he has decreed.

 

I do believe though that God intends for me to marry. He has worked, tended, and even pruned me in cases, to build me up in the gifts that would make me a suitable (and not to sound  arrogant I hope) a good husband and father. And these things build and even greater desire in me to have someone who is my friend, confidant, and companion, my helpmeet in the truest sense, but He has tempered me and taught me to be rest is His time.

 

So ask me, am I content? My answer I am satisfied that God will provide.

Favorite lines from movies, poems, songs, hymns or Scripture you would like to tell us about?

I can come up with quite a few very good quotes, but I very very recently quit smoking and the only one that seems to come to mind right now is a line by Ayn Rand in Atlas Shrugged – “I often wonder about the hours when a man sits alone, watching the smoke of a cigarette, thinking. I wonder what great things have come from such hours. When a man thinks, there is a spot of fire alive in his mind and it is proper that he should have the burning point of a cigarette as his own expression.”

 

Haha, that is sad. I will have to change that in a couple of days!!

Is there anything that the questionnaire didn’t cover?

Okay, so this seems a good place to add some general information. Starting with why am I here in the first place. Haha, looking for a wife of course……. but really why I am here on this site in particular is because after God in His providence has worked to drill it into my at times thick head to look among my own people for a wife. And by that I mean not just someone claiming to be Christian, but more specifically reformed in beliefs. Even more preferable a five point believing baptist. It would also be quite awesome if they preferred hymns over CCWM (I am particularly opinionated on this) .

 

On the Baptist part, it does need to be mentioned considering the intent of this site is to look for spouses. I am not against our Presbyterian brothers and sisters by no means. But when looking for a spouse especially with the hope of future children, the infant baptism subject arises. So let me be clear, no child of mine will be baptized outside of a confession of faith. I believe that the only acceptable and legitimate form of baptism is believers baptism, and it is something that I will not be at odds with in a wife. So would I be open to a Presbyterian woman, of course. If she knows and understands I will not waver on this.

 

Since children have been mentioned let me say this too. I believe that children are a blessing from God, and I greatly desire to have children, with emphasis on the plural. I also am very much pro-homeschooling and I am looking for a wife who also is.

 

That then leads to, yes I desire a wife who is a homemaker, not a career minded woman. Which is not to say that I am looking for a servant or maid, no no no I am looking for a helpmeet which is also my confidant, companion, and friend. Plus I think there is something honorable and beautiful in the wife who runs a home well and there is no shame for a woman to desire to raise children especially to raise them in the fear and admiration of the Lord.

About Me

Hi, I am Walt, a follower of Christ.  I am a guy who cares to be a Godly husband and father, and am humbled by the responsibility and duty entailed in being a Christian husband and father.  Which is not to say I shy away from those roles, but that I want approach them with honor and dignity that the Word of God demands.  To be a man who loves his wife as Christ loves the Church and raise children in the fear and admiration of Lord, while desiring to reflect Christ to the world in all aspects of my life.

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