Single – Never Married
|Level of education||
Computer programmer (on personal leave)
|Seeking Ethnicity (those I am willing to date)||
|My ideal place to live||
|My view on smoking||
I am a non-smoker
|My view on drinking||
I don't drink, but don't mind others drinking in moderation
|On the subject of children||
I would like to have children one day
|Tell us about your family. How do you feel about relocating?||
I care very much about my family. I have two older sisters, and both are also sisters in the Lord; the eldest lives in Kentucky. My mother is one of my closest companions.
This question about relocating makes this feel a bit like a job site. Next, they will be asking about how much I am willing to travel. In all seriousness, I am certainly willing to relocate. I am most hesitant to move because of ties to family and a handful of friends.
|How old were you when you were drawn to Christ and how is your Christian walk these days?||
It is difficult to say the specific year or season that God drew me unto himself, into a repentant faith. The first year that I had originally thought that I was a Christian, I was not bearing fruit and was living much in sin. However, it was probably around age twenty-four that I started to show any real faith and fruit in keeping in repentance.
My walk has been mostly dry, largely because I do not partake of the means of grace as I ought. Currently, I attend a church that has a strong emphasis on teaching the Word of God but holds a moderately strong rejection of reformed teaching. And while I know I am weak and pathetic and I fail continually, I know that God is strong and faithful to keep and protect those whom He has called.
|How have the Doctrines of Grace changed or affected your life?||
One of the impacting aspects is that I am not plagued with doubt in the same way I was without understanding them. Because I know that my coming to God was entirely Him drawing me unto Himself and not based at all on my works, I can rest in that fact. Realizing the level of depravity of my own heart, which still clings to this carcass that I carry around, pushes me to rely on God more and more and see His condescension to look upon me, let alone send His own Son to die for me, makes grace that much more amazing.
|Do you have a "Quiet Time?" What are you studying?||
For the longest time my “quiet time” was relegated to the very end of my day when I am too tired to have genuine time in the Word or prayer and would usually fall asleep. More recently, I have been reading in the morning, but not spending much time in prayer.
I am slowly moving through the Bible in an, usually, canonical order. I have reached and am pouring over the Isaiah. When I do not allot enough time to spend in the Word, I often chose a text at random, but it is far too easy for me to turn delight into pure duty, and time with God into a checklist entry.
|Who is your favorite Biblical Character and why?||
Setting apart our triune God as supreme and beyond comparison, I would have to say David is one of my favorites. How much I want to be like him, a man after God’s own heart. And while he was not perfect by any means, he was courageous because of his God and cried out to Him time and time again, so loving His law.
I also find delight in Paul, a man who had murder in his heart against Christ and His people. And yet, God would change him from his ways, to deliver the Gospel to the world, revealing many mysteries to his people through him for generations and generations to learn about their God and the work of His Christ. What an amazing picture of grace.
|Are you content being single? Why? If not, why?||
I fail miserably, but I strive to be content in whatever situation God has me in. That said, I desire greatly to have a wife, someone who would be a constant companion; someone whose presence I can delight in.
But I know that marriage is so much more than that and I should desire it primarily because it is a way to glorify God. It is a covenant in which the great mystery of Christ and His church is revealed, in which new image-bearers are brought forth (when God wills) and should be taught to love Him, to bring him greater honor. It is God’s institution in which two people are to pour into one another in service and sacrifice, loving the other more than self.
|What are three things you are most thankful for?||
Salvation in Christ Jesus, the reconciliation between myself and the God against whom I have sinned, and adoption as a son of God with whom I will dwell forever (and yes, that is all one thing).
Having people around me in both my family and in the body of Christ who love me and seek my good.
Having access to the Word of God and having the indwelling Holy Spirit.
|Describe the character and personality traits you enjoy in another person? What are yours?||
I enjoy people who like to talk, not in a way that is conceited or self-serving, but such that he or she delights to share things with others. I especially delight when someone expresses joy in the Lord and all the ways he or she sees Him working, at least in part because it is something that I lack and want it to rub off on me.
I also like to see people with a genuine care for others; you can tell that they have great love pouring through their hearts.
|Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and how?||
I would say that would have to be my eldest sister. She cares so much for me and actively seeks my good and growth in the Lord. Despite living in Kentucky and having four young kids, she still manages to call me up on occasion and ask me how I am, when I, in my abject self-focus, hardly give a second thought to her, or anyone else. In defiance to the question, I would say another person who has had be incredibly influential is my brother-in-law (from my other sister). He is constantly pushing me toward spiritual growth, to study the Word, to be accountable, to be a well-rounded person, among other ways.
|Favorite lines from movies, poems, songs, hymns or Scripture you would like to tell us about?||
There are so many songs, hymns, and passages that I could reference. One that sticks out is called “Where Were You” by Ghost Ship. It is a recounting of the book of Job, mostly God’s response to Job and it ends like this:
Can you hunt the prey for young lions?
Can you loose the chords of Orion?
Is this whole world bending beneath your will?
I spoke of things I did not understand
Things too wonderful for me
Although I had no right to ask
My God knelt and answered me
What an amazing God who, though able to will things into being, would condescend to answer questions asked in sin and weakness, to love us, seeking our good.
|What type of work do/did you do?||
I have worked on writing/modifying different kinds of software.
|How long have you been/were you in that line of work? Do/you enjoy it?||
Apart from being out of work for a year, I have been doing this in a professional capacity since mid-2014. There are times that I enjoy it, making new things by moving bits around, but lately it feels tedious.
|Do you have any life-long goals? What are they?||
I would like to be conformed more and more into the image of Christ, to be a man of prayer. As can be evidenced by my presence on SGS, I would like to be married to a godly woman, and, if the Lord wills, to have and raise children. On a lesser note, I would like to learn other languages; perhaps ASL and different spoken ones. I do not have many specific “life-long” aspirations.
|Where were you born and where have you traveled?||
I was born in Illinois. Apart for going “through” places, I have been to Wisconsin, Michigan, Indiana, New England, Florida, Virginia, New Mexico, the Grand Canyon, and a brief visit to Canada to see Niagara Falls from their perspective.
|Is there anything that the questionnaire didn’t cover?||
Probably. While it is often hard to get me to talk, once I do, it is hard to get me to shut my yap, as can be evidenced above.
I am open to suggestions as to other topics that may be helpful for anyone who might want to understand me better.
Here are a few notes that may be important to anyone who takes a closer look at my profile:
* Given some sins in my past and some that tend to linger, I wonder whether I should marry at all. A more specific example, but maybe not the most striking of my sins, is that my Christian walk is weak to say the least; I have difficulty understanding Scripture at very basic levels, my prayer life is pathetic, and I have felt quite apathetic about much for a while now.
* Although I tend to want children, I do not think I would be able to give children to a wife.
* Although I have attended a good, reformed church since August 2019, I have not sought church membership and do not serve or participate at church in any significant capacity outside of Sunday service.
* I am self-focused and have very little hope.
* I tend to think that I have the gift of singleness. Despite desiring relationship and marriage, I have always thought such to be an impossibility or inappropriate for me to engage in. Even as a child and teen I was ashamed to tell even family or close friends if I liked a girl. The only reason I have not given up on the pursuit of marriage is that if I am wrong about singleness then there is some woman out there that God has appointed me to care for who is still waiting for me to grow up, be a man, and seek her.
As my profile says, my name is Brian. About half a decade ago God graciously opened my eyes and granted me faith in Christ Jesus that I may follow Him, the one who saved me. I live in the northeastern portion of Illinois. As can be expected, I am here in search of a help meet, should God bless me in that regard.
Despite my high opinion of myself, of which I need to be humbled daily, I am not good at describing myself; specific questions usually help in that regard and so the remaining sections of this profile could help me to clarify myself. Also, feel free to ask questions.
I spend too much time on here. Despite that, I will not respond to ”winks” nor will I respond to messages apart from being polite or to bolster my ego.
My current intention is to try to grow more into the husband that I should be or discover whether I should even marry, so please do not be offended if I do not reply dilgently; I will try to be a friend to anyone who contacts me, but that is all for now.
I have a paid account, but I wish I could put it on hiatus because it will basically go to waste.