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Sarahsdtr
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  • Looking for:
    Marriage Minded, Friendship, Potential Courtship
  • Marital Status:
    Divorced - grown adult children
  • Christian Affiliation:
    Reformed Baptist
  • Race:
    Caucasian
  • Height:
    5' 6"
  • Build:
    Rubenesque
  • Eye Color:
    Brown
  • Hair Color:
    Brown
  • College /University:
    University of Central Florida
  • Graduation Year:
    2001
  • Level of education:
    Masters
  • Employment:
    Self Employed
  • Occupation:
    Accountant
  • Company:
    my own
  • Income:
    20-60K
  • Seeking Ethnicity:
    Caucasian
  • My ideal place to live:
    A farm/cottage in the country
  • My view on smoking:
    I don't smoke and I don't like to be around smokers
  • My view on drinking:
    I don't drink, but don't mind others drinking in moderation
  • On the subject of children:
    I have children and would gladly accept someone elses's
  • Tell us about your family. How do you feel about relocating?:
    Except for my son, my family lives all around me, for the first time in 20 years. I'm not crazy about relocating, but I am willing.
  • How old were you when you were drawn to Christ and how is your Christian walk these days?:
    God has worked over the course of my life, but my conversion probably occurred in my mid-thirties. My walk is currently steadily growing in grace and knowledge of the Lord Jesus Christ.
  • How have the Doctrines of Grace changed or affected your life?:
    The doctrines of grace have given me assurance of my salvation, gratitude to God for His loving kindnesses, and humility because of my sin.
  • Do you have a "Quiet Time?" What are you studying?:
    My church follows McCheyne's reading plan so I read a chapter of the bible each morning and evening.
  • Who is your favorite Biblical Character and why?:
    My favorite Bible person is Isaiah. I admired his eagerness to serve the Lord.
  • Are you content being single? Why? If not, why?:
    I am content being single but I am open to marriage. I am content because I strive to trust the Lord in the circumstances in which He has placed me.
  • What are four qualities your friends would attribute to you?:
    Quiet, playful, good listener, patient
  • What are three things you are most thankful for?:
    my family, my church family, Sundays
  • Describe the character and personality traits you enjoy in another person? What are yours?:
    I enjoy a sense of humor. I can't tell a joke to save my life.
  • Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and how?:
    My brother-in-law who is also my pastor.
  • What contributed to your previous relationship/marriage ending?:
    I didn't understand marriage or how to be a wife. I was self-centered and prideful. I was not a companion or help-meet. He also did not appreciate the one and only practical joke I pulled: we happened to have the same TShirt and sweat pants. So when he went to get a shower, I tucked his under the pillow, and put mine on. He was so ticked off, but I was laughing so hard that I could only move his pillow to reveal his clothes.
  • How long have you been on your own since and what did you to do get through it?:
    I have been divorced for more than 20 years. I kept busy with school, then work and church. I have learned a lot about God's design for marriage, my mistakes, and forgiveness.
  • Favorite lines from movies, poems, songs, hymns or Scripture you would like to tell us about?:
    I was quite tickled the other day when I heard this line from Annie Get your Gun in the song, "You can't get a Man with a Gun": "You can't shoot a male in the tail like a quail." Truer words were never said.
  • What type of work do/did you do?:
    accounting and taxes
  • How long have you been/were you in that line of work? Do/you enjoy it?:
    I do enjoy my work. I've been "add" it for 20 years now.
  • Do you have any life-long goals? What are they?:
    I want a maid.
  • Where were you born and where have you traveled?:
    I was born in Florida. I have been to California, lived in Idaho and Germany, visited England, the Azores, Spain (only because I got stuck there), Holland, Belgium and some little country next to Germany I can't remember the name of. Oh wait, Luxembourg.
  • How do you enjoy your leisure time? What do you do for recreation?:
    I work a lot. When I have downtime I watch a lot of videos on YouTube and knit. I plan meals, make too much food, and eat the same meal for days. I used to camp to get away from it all but since I'm alone plenty now, it's not as attractive. I've always wanted to learn how to fish, but I'm a afraid of catching something, so I let my nephew have my pole.
  • About Me:
    My son is grown, married and lives in California. I am expecting my first grandchild.

    I'm confident and independent. I'm not particularly open or affectionate at first. I warm up slowly, but once I commit, I do so wholeheartedly. I laugh at myself a lot: I'm ridiculous and forgetful.

    I'm not big on watching TV or movies, except on occasion. Life is too short.

    Here's my Life Story:

    I remember, when I was little, I was concerned about death. My father was very uncomfortable answering my questions. We went to several churches when I was growing up, finally landing in a Methodist church when he married my step-mother. However, the teaching in the Methodist church did nothing to answer my questions. I remember, as a teenager, hating to have to go to church, especially because my dad wasn't attending. I threw a fit about it one morning and said I didn't even know if God existed. My step-mom was so confident in the existence of God, that I was helped to believe.

    However, I still didn't understand anything about God or why we had to die. The Methodist church, at most, taught moralism. At worst, it focused on the end times and persecution. To be prepared for this coming persecution, I decided that I would become a doctor.

    Once, we played this game where the youth volunteers dropped off groups of us around town and we had to make it to the youth leader's house without getting caught. Unfortunately, my group was caught: my mom drove up in the van, my dad slid open the side door and pointed a hand gun at us. I knew it was unloaded, but he had always been very careful to teach us about gun safety: you never pointed a gun at another person, loaded or unloaded. That was it for me. I knew it was a game, but it got carried away and crossed the line.

    I started going to church with a friend. It was a charismatic church and I believed for a long time that I was saved in this church. It was the first time I heard the gospel. I accepted Jesus as my savior and cried with relief. However, looking back, I don't think I was saved because based on my next actions, I was not living a repentant life. I do think of it as proof that the Lord was calling me to Himself.

    That same friend was very promiscuous and I was very curious. So before I knew it, I was pregnant and getting married and living across the country. I was so ashamed and shocked by so many changes in such a short amount of time. However, I was trying to live out a Christian life as best as I could without reading the Bible or attending church or praying. I was reading this little book on submitting to your husband and I was so confused. The book didn't give any examples of what it meant to submit. It couldn't mean in everything! So I gave up trying that.

    Then, right before my son was three, I was ready for another child. However, later that year I was diagnosed with cancer, went through surgery and chemotherapy. And then, within six months we moved to another country and again, I went through a period of shock and depression. Then, thinking the cancer had come back or might, I went through a hysterectomy. I was thoroughly depressed. I started seeing a chaplain for counseling. He helped me to rediscover my desires to finish my college degree, but I decided to change from medicine to business. My husband, son and I started attending the non-denominational church service the chaplain led, but a short while later they cancelled those services. I started walking to get in better shape. Then my leg started swelling and I was diagnosed with lymph edema (a souvenir from the cancer). Then my husband wanted a divorce (he said we didn't travel like he wanted to). Then I was living back in the states with our son, working on my college degree. My son turned six.

    Our divorce was finalized, my heart was broken and my leg was swollen. I did very well in college but I was convicted that I did not have my son in church. We tried a Methodist church, but the reception was so cold, we didn't go back. It was probably another year of guilt before I received three post cards in a row from a non-denominational church advertising their Easter services. It seemed like a sign. I decided to go, and if the teaching was sound, even if I didn't like it, I would stay. I wasn't going to be an Easter-Christmas Christian.

    The teaching was sound and we stayed for many years. It was in and through this church that God worked repentance in my heart. It was here that I first understood grace (I remember wanting to leap with joy!) They taught true, gospel-oriented peacemaking and forgiveness, spiritual and emotional maturity. I forgave my ex-husband for divorcing me, and through Bible studies on Biblical marriage, started to understand all the things I did poorly in our marriage. I was not a help meet, I was a roommate. I was also helped to deal with my swollen leg. The Lord used my first job out of college to deal swiftly with my pride. And in one of the Bible studies, someone asked about the Doctrines of Grace. The teacher explained the basic principles using TULIP. Having read the Bible, I recognized that it was Biblical and believed it immediately, while another woman in the study rejected it because of what it meant if her son was not elected.

    The church was in decline over the 10 years that I was there. Finally, when the new pastor decided to sue the mortgage company that wasn't getting paid to keep them from foreclosure, I believed it was time to move on. My brother-in-law had been a pastor for many years at various Southern Baptist churches had also come to believe in reformed doctrine. He accepted a call to a reformed baptist church in North Carolina. He encouraged me to find a reformed church and recommended one in my area.

    I became a member at the church he recommended, while at the same time I told them I was planning to move. My son had grown and moved away. My mother passed away. When my foster son was moved, I was going to move to North Carolina where that brother-in-law was a pastor. I had visited several times over the years and loved family worship and singing hymns. And he could answer any question I had about biblical doctrine in a way that was simple and made so much sense. I had known him as a teenager, so it took me a while to respect him fully, but he earned it.

    Since moving to North Carolina, I joined the church where my brother-in-law is pastor. I have grown in my understanding of the moral law of God. I do my best to honor the Sabbath and to keep it holy. I cover my head in church as a sign of submission to the male leadership of the church. I tease my brother-in-law mercilessly by threatening to wear a variety of head coverings. He has forbidden my camouflage bandanna. So I suggested a camel print (get it, camel-flage). He didn't like that either. I have a dress that reminded me of a nurse' uniform, so I suggested a nurse's cap (complete with red cross.) He was not willingly amused. I think he's a little concerned I might actually to it.
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