Off CDU for 2021
Off CDU for 2021
|Date of Birth||
44 years, 7 months ago
Abbotsford, BC, Canada
Getting to know another SGS Member
1. Briercrest Bible College & Seminary
2. The Master’s Seminary
.Also, I’m off SGS for the next while (though I’ll update my profile occasionally).
This isn’t the right time for this.
I’ll be back sometime in 2022.
|Level of education||
I was the national manager for a Camp Merchandising Company and also ran my own sports merchandising business, but Covid carpet bombed both as Summer Camps and Spectator Sports no longer exist in Canada and won’t for another year or so.
I currently work for a mobile storage company, driving forklift and also recently got my private security license and was hired on with a large private security contractor.
Up until recently I was also day trading, which is supplementing me to make ends meet.
Finally, I’m a single parent and have my kids 60% of the time, and have done a lot of homeschooling over the last while. Raising littles is definitely “work”.
I’m currently working for Special T Events Group, UPak Storage, and Commissionaires (private security contractor).
|Seeking Ethnicity (those I am willing to date)||
|My ideal place to live||
In the suburbs
|My view on smoking||
I don't smoke and I don't like to be around smokers
|My view on drinking||
I don't touch the stuff
|On the subject of children||
I have children and would gladly accept someone elses's
|Tell us about your family. How do you feel about relocating?||
Currently, I’m trapped in the Vancouver area as a consequence of a nasty divorce…but I’d love to get out of here some day.
My sister lives a few hours away and the rest of my family is in other provinces, as are many of my closest friends.
I also lived in the US for 4 years and wouldn’t mind that again.
|How old were you when you were drawn to Christ and how is your Christian walk these days?||
Well, I grew up in the church but didn’t really “get it” until the summer of 1997. I got saved after my second year of Bible College. I really connected the dots on a few things while I was in seminary as well…but I guess I’ve been growing the whole time.
Who has an accurate gauge on their own walk with God these days though?
I’m reading the scripture every day, I’m having a time of prayer with my kids and alone daily, I’m constantly helping others (doing a lot of counseling) over the phone as it’s illegal to meet friends in person where I’m at, and I’m getting some good time in serious study as well. I’m actively memorizing scripture (currently working through some proverbs regarding the tongue and restraining our words) and trying to cultivate specific virtues in my life (self-control at the moment). I’m having regular deep conversations about Christ, the Gospel, theology, etc. with close friends who are pastors and other ministry personas.
Does that make me average? Better than average? Way below average?
I have no idea.
|How have the Doctrines of Grace changed or affected your life?||
Well, when you finally realize that Yahweh is Yahweh and not Ba’al, Molech, Chemosh, or any of the other pretenders, it sure changes the way you do everything.
One of the major things is that you face trials tremendously different. Nothing “bad” happens, just a lot of “unwanted” that is uncomfortable…until I get my thinking aligned with the Lord once again. Isaiah 5:8-30 leading into Isaiah 6:5. Lots of Jonah 4:2-9 leading into Jonah 4:10-11. That even happened the other day, where someone contacted me with news that they thought would make me upset (they got something that I wanted) and I was somewhat surprised at my being not only happy, but excited for what I realized was a tremendous blessing for them.
But oh good gravy, do I need to be reminded and re-focused on the Lord regularly since my focus wanders like a hyperactive kid with a bag of smarties and pellet gun in a field of gophers.
The doctrines of Grace have changed the way I approach prayer, evangelism, study, worship, suffering, etc.
Mostly because having an accurate and appropriately elevated view of God is really helpful.
Like Ed Welch once said (and I paraphrase) when life/struggles/people are big, God is small and seemingly useless, but when God is big enough, life/struggles/people are small enough that they’re never a serious problem.
|Do you have a "Quiet Time?" What are you studying?||
With my kids we’re reading the 2 Kings and finished learning about Jehu today. We’re going through 1/3-1/4 a chapter a day, with them reading and me providing commentary.
With myself, I’m working through a different book every day. I’m struggling with memorization so I’m just reading whole books of the Bible (or large sections of bigger books) in a single sitting right now, just to change things up.
|Who is your favorite Biblical Character and why?||
But seriously, it usually changes as per what I’m reading at the time. Elijah is fascinating, Micaiah is absolutely hilarious (the trolling prophet), Gehazi and Jehu are guys I can relate to (I relate to all the dimwits and frustrated 2nd fiddles in the Bible) and of course, there’s the 12…and the rest…and basically everyone.
|Are you content being single? Why? If not, why?||
Yup. I’m TOTALLY happy being single and alone, hence I’m on a Christian dating site.
Like WHAT kind of question is this for a dating site?
But in all seriousness, I’m surviving all right being single, but having been married for a decade, I know that marriage is *good*.
Like really good; good for me, good for her, good for everyone, etc.
After being single for several years now, I have more free time and can do what I want and whatnot, but I also don’t have the regular discipline of putting myself aside for the needs of another adult, and that’s a good thing for my heart. It’s not always the easiest thing (or seldom is), but marriage grew me as a believer tremendously and I want to be famous…just in the kingdom rather than on Instagram.
|What are four qualities your friends would attribute to you?||
1. Humor (I’m goofy and weird on a whole other level. My neighbors have commented that our house has a LOT of laughter coming from it.).
|What are three things you are most thankful for?||
1. God’s saving grace.
I’ll be thankful forever for the simple fact that I’m not who I once was.
2. God’s sanctifying grace.
I’ll be thankful forever for the simple fact that I’m on the way to who I will be.
3. The hope of the resurrection of the dead.
I’ll be thankful forever for the simple fact that one day, I will indeed arrive at where I’m going and become what I’m becoming.
|Describe the character and personality traits you enjoy in another person? What are yours?||
Yes. When another person has a personality and character, I enjoy that.
What do I enjoy in a person?
Uh, without sounding to slap-happy Bibley, “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self control”, as well as an ability to laugh, some spontaneity, an appreciation of music (or being actually musical is SUPER HOT…sorry…I got a little hot under the collar there…), a bit of self-respect and awareness of propriety (specifically in fashion: not wearing ankle skirts or anything, but also covering up the parts that society pressures women to expose), being a bit of a nerd, not being a psycho and possibly a little understanding of *hypotasso* (what the Bible actually says about it, now what crazy people say about it) are all really fabulous.
As for me, I’m a hardcore Bible geek who reads the Bible and tries to apply it to my life, every day. I also am a wingnut who laughs a LOT, breaks out into boisterous song randomly (I’m still working on the words to “Modern Major General”), loves almost all music and sci-fi, and tries to hike/cook/knit/whatever as needed.
If you’re somewhat along those lines (and really the “fruit of the Spirit” character qualities are by FAR the most important), then we’d likely get along swimmingly.
I’m definitely not everyone’s cup of tea, but maybe I’m yours?
|Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and how?||
|What contributed to your previous relationship/marriage ending?||
That’s a story that is way too insane for here.
The short story is that life was really hard for the second half of our 10-year marriage. I was dying (but I got better) and got really lazy and neglectful and didn’t put in effort where it was needed, and 3 years ago my wife initiated a separation. I immediately enrolled myself in counseling and then 2 weeks later, after an absolutely *biblical* turn of events, my wife ended up under church discipline, then left both our church and the Christian faith…and *then* things went nuts.
When it comes to Biblical grounds for divorce, I’ve got all of them (unless you think there’s *no* biblical grounds, ever).
|How long have you been on your own since and what did you to do get through it?||
I’ve been on my own for 3 years.
It was a nuclear bomb that went off in my life, and I was kinda in shock for quite a while.
I got through it with help and prayers from my friends and church family, indeed, as well as the ongoing work of the Holy Spirit in my life and through all the wise friends I have around me.
I honestly don’t really know how I got through it. The Lord just kept me going, somehow.
Something to do with 1 Kings 19:15-18.
|Favorite lines from movies, poems, songs, hymns or Scripture you would like to tell us about?||
Some of my favorite passages of Scripture:
“And that night the angel of the Lord went out and struck down 185,000 in the camp of the Assyrians. And when people arose early in the morning, behold, these were all dead bodies.” – 2 Kings 19:35
“Go, return on your way to the wilderness of Damascus. And when you arrive, you shall anoint Hazael to be king over Syria. And Jehu the son of Nimshi you shall anoint to be king over Israel, and Elisha the son of Shaphat of Abel-meholah you shall anoint to be prophet in your place. And the one who escapes from the sword of Hazael shall Jehu put to death, and the one who escapes from the sword of Jehu shall Elisha put to death. Yet I will leave seven thousand in Israel, all the knees that have not bowed to Baal, and every mouth that has not kissed him.” – 1 Kings 19:15-18
“Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which comes through faith in Christ, the righteousness from God that depends on faith— that I may know him and the power of his resurrection, and may share his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, that by any means possible I may attain the resurrection from the dead.” – Philippians 3:8-11
I can explain those all, and why they’re massively meaningful to me, if you want.
|What type of work do/did you do?||
I was a student for a long time and I also was a pastor for several years, but that stopped when I found out that I contracted Hepatitis C in 1982 from a contaminated blood transfusion. I’m better now, but I spent 3 years in bed, waiting to die, then got healed by the Lord and worked as a trucker while I studied for law school and then I was headed to law school right before my wife left, so that plan got scuttled to the bottom of the ocean.
My kids are my priority now and I’ve taken work that maximizes my time with them, since my divorce has been difficult and I only get 1 chance to be a dad; there’s no do-overs so I’ve just dove headlong into being the best dad I can. When the time comes, the Lord will get me doing other work that pays way more than I am making now (and I already know what that will be). Until then, I’m continually learning to be patient and rely on God for everything I need. Amazingly, the Lord just keeps blessing me and blessing me and blessing me.
|How long have you been/were you in that line of work? Do/you enjoy it?||
I didn’t really enjoy trucking as it was ridiculously long hours (i.e. 14-16 hour days) and I never saw my family. The money got us ahead, but it wasn’t really worth it (so I didn’t return).
I absolutely love ministry work and am finishing my credentialing as a biblical counselor, which I really enjoy. If I could get back into ministry, I would definitely do so. Sadly, the word “divorce” on my resume means that it gets filed in the trash wherever I apply.
Also, I LOVE being a dad. It’s the best thing ever, and it just keeps getting better every day.
|Do you have any life-long goals? What are they?||
I live in one of the more expensive places on earth where a started house (like a mediocre fixer upper) averages slightly under a million dollars, so I sadly rent. I’m saving up my bottle-return money, but not being a raging alcoholic (or even drinking at all in the first place), the accumulation of empties is taking a while…haha!
One day, I’d really love to own at least a townhouse and start paying property taxes instead of rent.
But more seriously, my real goal is for my kids to be famous in the kingdom (Matt. 6:20).
|Where were you born and where have you traveled?||
I was born in a hospital.
Not amazing story there.
There was a doctor involved, and I’m told a nurse burned me with an electric blanket.
Since then, I’ve left the hospital and gone to many numerous other buildings.
|How do you enjoy your leisure time? What do you do for recreation?||
Swim, Hike, Bike, Walk, Write, Sing, Strum, Sit, Chat, Play, Game, Read, Clean, Listen, Cook, Eat, Headbang.
Well, it’s usually not in alphabetical order.
|Is there anything that the questionnaire didn’t cover?||
Almost everything, actually.
I was quire surprised at the total lack of plumbing-related questions on here, or the absence of any hard science questions whatsoever.
But as for questions about ME, there’s lots, sure.
For the sake of being up front, I should say the following:
1. My divorce has a court date set to wrap things up (in 2022…Covid STINKS) but it’s not officially finalized. There’s absolutely, positively, no hope in Gehenna of reconciliation at all (I can explain that all), but I’m legally separated and have filed for divorce, but it’s not finalized…which is why I’m just on here making some new friends.
2. I know this is a “reformed” site, and I would consider myself Calvinistic (a strongly convictional 5-pointer for sure), but I’m also a spiritual leper:
I’m a Dispensationalist who believes in a Premillennial Rapture and am a strongly convictional anabaptist. I’m just tossing that all out there because for some, that means I’m an unreached people group.
3. I’m a strongly convinced cessationist (I even wrote a book on it). If you’ve think you regularly hear the voice of God or get propositional revelation from him, I could definitely help you sort out your confusion regarding that, but if you are looking for a super spiritual guy who prays in tongues, that’s definitely not me.
4. I love music: extreme heavy metal, Russian folk music, choirs, string quartets, 70’s Christian Contemporary, 80’s Christian Rock and 90’s Christian rap/metal, several Brazilian worship artists (and any good arrangements of hymns that don’t insert vestigial choruses), a few Japanese Visual Kei bands, Five Iron Frenzy, and so on and so on. I grew up playing in a symphony, spent several years teaching in a music school, was a competitive pianist in my youth and come from an absurdly musical family.
Theologically, If you like John MacArthur, you and I will get along swimmingly. If you share videos on Facebook on how MacArthur is a false teacher, I’d say that you may wanna move along, lest my theological knuckle-dragging convinces you that I’m the missing link.
I once shot several gophers, with a real firearm, from the hood of an unpiloted but still driving motor vehicle on an actual golf course. The policeman who caught me didn’t give me a ticket because he was so flabbergasted at what he was seeing that he just wanted to know how in the world I ended up in that situation in the first place.
I cried, blamed international communism and escaped without serving any prison time.
Stuff that’s interesting.
Or possibly dangerous.
Or covered in melted cheese.