Marriage Minded, A Date with Serious Intentions
Single - Never Married
Trinity Baptist College
Level of education:
Campus ministry to international students
Can share more later
My ideal place to live:
In the suburbs
My view on smoking:
I am a non-smoker
My view on drinking:
I don't drink, but don't mind others drinking in moderation
On the subject of children:
I would like to have children one day
Tell us about your family. How do you feel about relocating?:
My family is broken in a lot of ways, but I'm grateful for how God is healing and growing me in relationship with them. I lived overseas for a decade and moved back here to be close to my family a few years ago. I feel that in this season of life I would want to continue to live close by and am not willing to relocate.
How old were you when you were drawn to Christ and how is your Christian walk these days?:
I was 6 when Jesus drew me to salvation. Our relationship has had a lot of seasons and has deepened over the years. He is my Comforter, Redeemer, Rescuer, Savior, Lover of My Soul, my strong and attentive Shepherd described in Ezekiel 34 and fulfilled in John 10, my righteousness, my dearest Friend and Older Brother who has relentlessly pursued me and loves me at my worst. My current season with Him is close, but wrestling honestly through a lot of pain, learning to trust Him in deeper ways and discovering parts of Him in how He relates to me that I never understood before.
How have the Doctrines of Grace changed or affected your life?:
I didn't grow up with them, but the more I have embraced them and come to understand them over the past decade or so, the more freeing it is from legalism to love and enjoy Jesus apart from my own striving and leaves me in awe of grace.
Do you have a "Quiet Time?" What are you studying?:
It's looked differently in different seasons of life. Right now it's a season of a lot of honest pouring out my heart to God and praying back Scripture to reorient my heart, passages I am drawn to more than a formally structured reading schedule or prayer list. I think it's more beautiful for it to be relational than regimented, raw and real, than polished.
Who is your favorite Biblical Character and why?:
I've always liked Anna and Hannah because of their prayer lives and the reality of their losses and surrender. I love the writings of Paul. There are a lot of answers to this question.
Are you content being single? Why? If not, why?:
I lived in Africa for a lot of years and was overall joyful and content in ministry there, but the past few years have been especially challenging for me. I have felt my singleness and longings deeply, letting myself honestly desire marriage and family in ways that I stuffed down or saw as inferior before. I'm really grateful for the life and opportunities I've had as a single person. But I'm also grateful for how He is moving me to be much more actively open to embracing the desire for marriage and family.
What are four qualities your friends would attribute to you?:
listener, perceptive, articulate, caring
What are three things you are most thankful for?:
the body of Christ becoming like family, the hope of beauty for ashes, the gift of humility and freedom in Christ that allows us to laugh and enjoy life even though there is pain
Describe the character and personality traits you enjoy in another person? What are yours?:
Humility and vulnerability, emotional intelligence, honest communication, intimacy with Jesus.
My friends tell me I'm a blend of deep/serious/contemplative and funny/make them laugh.
Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and how?:
my close friends in Togo- both missionary teammates and Togolese friends
my current ministry teammates- there is too much to say here, they've taught me a lot about humility, grace, and truth-telling
my former pastor and his wife who moved away- beautiful examples of trusting God in suffering and suffering well while living a self-forgetful life as opposed to self-absorbed
What contributed to your previous relationship/marriage ending?:
There have been some interests, guys, and experiences along the way, but honestly not a lot of hardcore dating experience
Favorite lines from movies, poems, songs, hymns or Scripture you would like to tell us about?:
Indelible Grace- Hast Thou Heard Him, Seen Him, Known Him?
Hast thou heard Him, seen Him, known Him?
Is not thine a captured heart?
Chief among ten thousand own Him,
Joyful choose the better part.
Captivated by His beauty, Worthy tribute haste to bring.
Let His peerless worth constrain thee, Crown Him now unrivaled King.
What can strip the seeming beauty,
From the idols of the earth?
Not a sense of right or duty,
But the sight of peerless worth.
Tis that look that melted Peter,
'Tis that face that Stephen saw,
'Tis that heart that wept with Mary,
Can alone from idols draw.
What type of work do/did you do?:
I taught missionary kids, taught in a Classical School in Iraq, spent some time learning the language and culture of Fulani people, worked with Togolese friends to develop the chaplaincy department at a mission hospital, work now in campus ministry to international college students and with a ministry that travels around doing seminars in churches on building grace and truth relationships with lost people in our lives who happen to identify as LGBTQ- this means a lot to me because my brother who identified as gay took his own life a few years ago.
How long have you been/were you in that line of work? Do/you enjoy it?:
I love my work now. It's a huge gift and redemptive.
Do you have any life-long goals? What are they?:
I would like to be a wife and a mom. There are other things too to share later....
Where were you born and where have you traveled?:
I was born in Orlando, FL. I lived in Togo for about 9 years and in Iraq for 1 year. I've also been to Turkey, UAE, Morocco, Benin, Niger, Burkina Faso, Ghana, France, Peru, Canada
How do you enjoy your leisure time? What do you do for recreation?:
reading, going to parks, nature walks, time with friends, adventures exploring new places, board games, having people over, a good movie, deep conversations on things like theology or counseling, going to coffee shops, bookstores, getting together for prayer with friends, welcoming the international community
Is there anything that the questionnaire didn’t cover?:
Praying for a man who loves Jesus, would lead well as an intimate ally on the journey of knowing Jesus and getting to live missionally, no matter what the career path is- doesn't have to be ministry, to have a focus of living for the joy of seeking His kingdom together. I'm not looking for a perfect man, but someone who is aware of his brokenness and boasts in grace, is on a trajectory of growth in community.
It would be helpful if he could somehow try to relate to what it feels like to have lived abroad and feel different in America on some level, or has an awareness of other cultures.
I think I've already shared quite a bit in answering these questions. I'm open for you to ask and find out more ; )
Other cultures, counseling and seeing the Gospel become no longer conceptual but powerfully, personally contextual for people's pain, Biblical masculinity and femininity lived out and broken lives restored, trying new ethnic foods that I've never had before, seeing people who enchained to legalistic backgrounds like the Independent, Fundamental Baptist, homeschool world I left finding freedom in a deeper understanding of the Gospel and grace, these are some serious interests..... but sometimes I am also quirky and have a silly, humorous side.