Female, Marriage Minded
Divorced – grown adult children
Hunter college NY, Rutgers NJ
|Level of education||
Investor-trader stock market
|Seeking Ethnicity (those I am willing to date)||
|My ideal place to live||
In the heart of the city
|My view on smoking||
I am a non-smoker
|My view on drinking||
I rarely drink
|On the subject of children||
I am an empty nester
|Tell us about your family. How do you feel about relocating?||
I was Born in New Delhi, India…family moved to NJ in 1974…spent my 20s in NY…mother and father have passed away…one sister who lives in Texas.
Was married to my x for almost 26 years and have three children(boy 26, girl 24, boy 19) from that marriage.
Desiring, God willing, to live in India in near future(May be 2021…May be never) to see if I can be useful in God’s hands to further the cause of Christ and help the poor if I can…for the need is great there as we all know…praying about it!
(no clarity from the Lord yet…and wife to be will surely have a say…want to lead a wife…not drag her…would be happy to live wherever the wife is the happiest…place to live doesn’t matter to me…WiFi and WiFe is all I want…former for work and the latter for pleasure and leisure…and a helper to do God’s will…just don’t want to do it alone…it’s unnatural…and very boring.
|How old were you when you were drawn to Christ and how is your Christian walk these days?||
Lord drew me to himself around the summer of 1984 and my desire today is, even more so, to please the Lord and serve Him according to His Word…gives me more certainty that I am really His…
|How have the Doctrines of Grace changed or affected your life?||
Knowing that God chose me and not I him…is my anchor…otherwise I would be lost for sure.
His love just won’t let me go…knowing that changes everything…takes away anxieties for sure!
Wasn’t born the first time by my choice…and neither the second time.
“But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name: who were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, BUT OF GOD.” – John 1:12,13- emphasis mine
|Do you have a "Quiet Time?" What are you studying?||
I delight in the word of God and spend much time in scriptures daily. Most, if not all, of my other reading nowadays is from http://www.gracegems.org, some favorite authors J.C. Philpot, A.W. Pink, Archibald Alexander
|Who is your favorite Biblical Character and why?||
Jonathan(Saul’s son) is one…he was not interested in worldly power or fame though he was a king’s son yet he was faithful in all things…friendship to David and yet honoring his father and undaunted in fighting God’s enemies…
Nehemiah for his fantastic and unflinching leadership and zeal for the temple(church) of God.
And among the ladies…
Anna(Luke 2:36-37)…what an impressive Christian lady…devoted to prayer and fasting…
Mary…sister of Lazarus who loved the word of God and was found sitting at Lord’s feet listening to his words(Luke 11??)…
Deborah though so strong in faith and a prophetess and yet content in the role God had given her and was so hesitant to take role of a man and glory from the man God had appointed to fight the battle…
…there are so many…and they all teach so many aspects of our faith and life in Christ To me that I could go on and on…
|Are you content being single? Why? If not, why?||
When I was a new Christian, my desire was to remain single like apostle Paul but I soon realized that I couldn’t do it without being gifted with power from on high.
I was not gifted then and nothing really has changed much…even now.
It might sound like it’s all about intimacy, I know you, my lady, may not believe this but us guys are also built for companionship…and really need someone to flatter us and laugh at our cheesy jokes.
It’s interesting to see how Adam and Eve were just happy companions since intimacy part didn’t come till after the fall…was it a day…a week…even much more…before the fall?
It’s better to marry than to burn…that is to burn all your time editing your profile and searching…sure could use my time in more productive way…actually being useful in furthering God’s kingdom somewhere than spend all the time courting.
God gave me grace to be single before and trust He will not fail me now.
If it is God’s will, though not mine, for me to stay single then I’m cheerfully content with it and am happy to enjoy the many benefits of singleness as outlined in 1 Cor. 7:32.
There’s always more there to read and more to improve on this body and get healthier…and always wanted to take some singing lessons…may be it’s time!
My Heavenly Father knows what is best for my sanctification…therefore I will be content with whatever state He assigns for me…
Don’t have a choice…do I…does anyone?
Now to be content…cheerfully? That’s the struggle and That’s what I need to pray for and ask for faith and strength…gonna keep reminding myself that whether be single or married…form of this world is passing away…what matters is to hear , “ Well done…faithful servant…” and enter eternal joys with God…
God help me and help us all!
“ Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” So we may boldly say:
“The Lord is my helper;
– Hebrews 13:5,6
|What are four qualities your friends would attribute to you?||
Reliable, helpful, sensitive and go out of way to love?(I don’t like this part…let others praise thee and not thine own lips is the commandment) but I think those who know me will not disagree with that…at least not in front of me!
|What are three things you are most thankful for?||
Above all thankful for salvation and the Word of God…as regards to things of this world…
I am very thankful to be an American…
It is indeed a great blessing to live in America. With all the freedoms and opportunities we have in America…can’t thank God enough(though, nowadays, America is competing to beat Sodom & Gomorrah in her wickedness and the state of the churches is even worst…ruled by foxes who refuse to warn people of wrath to come or to demand holy lives from the members).
I am also very thankful for my parents who loved(really to the point of spoiling) me and cared for me so very much.
I am also thankful to God for meeting my financial needs in fairly easy way…
Overall …I am very thankful for my lot…considering there is so much suffering and loneliness in the world.
|Describe the character and personality traits you enjoy in another person? What are yours?||
I love being around people who love the Lord with sincerity and are hungry and Single eyed to grow in the knowledge of Christ and are concerned about salvation of others and want to do something about it and not just talk…
And people who are sensitive to the feelings of others and not just wrapped up in themselves(though many times I am that person myself…oh, what a wretched man am I…who will deliver me from this body of death…)
|Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and how?||
My pastor(Albert Martin) at Trinity Chruch in Montville NJ was very influential in my Christian walk, may be because that’s where I first learned the doctrines of grace in a systematic way…was a member at that church for many years.
|What contributed to your previous relationship/marriage ending?||
My wife abandoned the marriage.
There were no common reasons…like adultery or physical abuse of any kind…suffice it to say that I made many efforts to save the marriage…this was not the first time she had left and/or threatened to leave…this last time I felt I had to let her go and not stop her for peace sake in accordance with 1 Cor. 7:15…Let me leave it at that for now.
I’ll readily, gladly and openly share all if and when we get to that level in a relationship then you be the judge. For you need to know all the details before you can trust yourself to me.
May be you might think I didn’t give enough time from the end of previous marriage…well, the marriage was dead long time ago, as it became clear that we were unequally yoked, the final funeral was just recently…I still gave it 7-8 months and try to persuade her…for God hates divorce…but since there was no desire or even a little effort…I called it quits…either way…it will be your call to decide when you get to know the details…your call only…how could it be otherwise?
|How long have you been on your own since and what did you to do get through it?||
My wife left in august 2019. I gave myself more and more to the word of God and seek his face.
I am focusing on spending more time in reading God’s word and other Christian books and striving to live a life pleasing to the Lord, as I would anyway, before my X left.
Whether be another marriage or single life for me?…His grace will see me thru…Want a companion for sure…do not like living alone and why stay alone?…when I can make another happy and that someone special can do the same for me for this short time we have here on earth.
But not worried…for that is for non believers…all is well with my soul(“being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ;”- Phil. 1:6)
|Favorite lines from movies, poems, songs, hymns or Scripture you would like to tell us about?||
“Word was that God could heal anyone. The wounded, the infirm, even lepers. I figured I should be a breeze.” – Sam Harris
“I fear that my lesson in this lifetime is humility… and I think that lesson is beneath me.” – Sam Harris
”Only mistake in life is the one you don’t learn from.” – my modified version of Albert Einstein quote
“For Ezra had prepared his heart to seek the Law of the Lord, and to do it, and to teach statutes and ordinances in Israel.” Ezra 7:10
“From the end of the earth will I cry unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than I.” -Psalm 61:2
|What type of work do/did you do?||
Trader in the stock market…kind of retired!
|How long have you been/were you in that line of work? Do/you enjoy it?||
I have been working for myself for over 20 years…stock market…had two retail stores and even a restaurant for a while…
I do enjoy my work with it’s flexibility to work from anywhere but, sometimes I do miss the corporate world and working in groups and interacting with other people.
|Do you have any life-long goals? What are they?||
I am putting a website for audio sermons in Hindi/English to get the good news(full and free pardon in Christ) and the bad news(eternal torments for those who refuse to repent).
My personal goals are to redeem the time to grow in the knowledge of God and spend more and more time in reading my Bible and prayer.
“For thou canst not waste time, for time wasteth thee” – Shakespeare
|Where were you born and where have you traveled?||
Born in New Delhi, India…family moved to America in 1974.
|How do you enjoy your leisure time? What do you do for recreation?||
Reading is my favorite leisurely activity and getting to know people…
I enjoy one on one dates much more than group gatherings…just getting to know that one person is exhilarating to me…
But, to be honest… I always have an hidden agenda with people…as much as it is to see how uniquely God has made each one of us and enjoy individual friendships…
I always want to bring our conversations to God and in particular Christ…for I find, as you do…I’m sure, Christ is most adorable being to have our minds to contemplate…for He is all glorious and final end for us Christians…to be found in Him and live in Him forever!
…And for non-believers…is there anything more important than the salvation of their never dying souls?
Frankly…as I’m getting older…realizing more acutely that I have, may be, 15-20 years to go(averages by Moses…psalm 90) I really treasure my time alone with God…more than anything…making my calling and election sure…seems like very little time left to confess all of my sins.
|Is there anything that the questionnaire didn’t cover?||
Nuff said for now…I have told you so much about myself and I don’t even know you yet…rest when we talk face to face…kool?
Just your average guy with big ego except as a Christian I call it convictions instead of ego.
Usually I end up talking more than I need to…and eating more than I should.
This tongue is really a problem…is it just me?
“ And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell. For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and creature of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by mankind. But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.” – James 3:6-8
Reading and now am working on websites in an effort to spread the gospel and get some audio sermons made for Hindi(Indian) speaking folks…also in English.