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First Name

Schylie

Username

SchylieJ

Nickname

Schylie

Gender

Female

Date of Birth

24 years, 5 months ago

Location

Barnstable County, MA, USA

Country

United States

State

Massachusetts

City

Centerville

Looking for

Male, Potential Courtship, A Date with Serious Intentions, Marriage Minded

Marital Status

Single – Never Married

Christian Affiliation

Orthodox Presbyterian Church (OPC)

Race

Caucasian

Height

5' 0"

Build

Average

Eye Color

Brown

Hair Color

Brown

College /University

Cape Cod Community Collge

Graduation Year

2017

Level of education

Associate Degree

Employment

Part Time

Occupation

Nanny

Company

Self-employed

Seeking Ethnicity (those I am willing to date)

Caucasian

My ideal place to live

A farm/cottage in the country

My view on smoking

I am a non-smoker

My view on drinking

I drink occasionally

On the subject of children

I would like to have children one day

Tell us about your family. How do you feel about relocating?

I am the oldest daughter of 7 kids, with one older brother, two younger brothers, and three younger sisters. I live at home with my parents and 5 younger siblings. My dad is the pastor of my church (Presbyterian Church of Cape Cod, OPC) and my mom is a homemaker. My siblings and I were homeschooled and I absolutely loved it. We live in the suburbs. I don’t mind moving away from MA, although I would definitely value visits home. My family is very important to me, and one of the greatest things I am thankful for.

How old were you when you were drawn to Christ and how is your Christian walk these days?

I was raised in a Christian home–first PCA, and then OPC (since 2002). I don’t remember a day when I wasn’t taught the truth of the Scriptures through family worship and regular church attendance. I don’t know the day that I was saved, but I know that I love Him now. In my teens, the Lord convicted me of my selfishness and turned my heart more towards my family, especially my mom.

The Lord  has brought me through multiple trials in the past year, but He continues to draw me closer to himself and sanctify me. I strive to spend time daily in Bible reading and prayer, although I struggle to pray as I ought. I have recently begun a Bible study for the girls at my church. I organize the meetings, and have asked several women in the church to be guest speakers and lead studies on various topics such as relationships, trusting God, identity, and prayer. I have a heart for discipleship and mentoring, and long for this to be more present in churches today, especially between the older/wiser/mature christians, and the young believers/young teens and adults.

How have the Doctrines of Grace changed or affected your life?

I am utterly amazed at God’s grace in forgiving me, his patience in my failings and struggles, and his love for me, despite my sins and failures. God’s sovereignty is a huge comfort to me, knowing that God is in control of all things, that all things will work together for my good, and that nothing is out of God’s plan or will. I can trust God with my past, present, and future. I can rest in God’s love and covenant commitment to me, knowing that I can’t out-sin his grace or lose my salvation.

Do you have a "Quiet Time?" What are you studying?

Yes, I am currently using a read-the-Bible-in-9-months plan. It consists of 5-8 chapters a day, and I don’t usually get to all of them, but I try to read what I can. I am currently going through 1 Chronicles and Psalms. I also have a prayer journal and have over 30 people that I pray for throughout the week–I pray for the same people on the same day of the week regularly.

Who is your favorite Biblical Character and why?

Peter. He was prideful and arrogant, believing he would never deny Christ. Yet he did. Then he genuinely repented and Jesus graciously forgave him. He went on to write 1 and 2 Peter, full of rich wisdom and challenges to beware of temptation and fight against the devil. Peter makes me think much of myself, as I also struggle with pride and self-righteousness. I’m thankful for God’s grace and patience with me, and his unfailing love.

Are you content being single? Why? If not, why?

I am striving to be, but it’s not easy. With one painful relationship behind me, and three of my siblings currently dating, contentment does not come easy in this area. I want to trust the Lord with my future, rest in His wisdom and love, and be fruitful and faithful where I am. It is sometimes a daily battle and prayer. But I do desire marriage and have prayed for the Lord to bring me the right man at the right time. For years, I have prayed for my future husband consistently–sometimes nightly. I believe that God has called me to marriage, and trust that his timing is best. I long to serve God as a wife and mother; to support, encourage, and challenge my husband in the Lord; to raise children for God’s glory; to grow in sanctification through marriage; to have a solid friendship with my husband, enjoy spending time with him, and be his best friend; to encourage my husband in his work and help him where I can; to do him good all the days of my life.

What are four qualities your friends would attribute to you?

Adventurous, good listener, trustworthy, joyful

What are three things you are most thankful for?

My family, God’s grace, and my friends

Describe the character and personality traits you enjoy in another person? What are yours?

Trustworthy, listener, genuine, joyful, fun, respectful, humble, unselfish, loyal. Enjoys people, likes to have fun, likes traveling/visiting new places, is family-oriented, appreciates the little things in life.

Mine are: reliable, encourager, caring, family-oriented, enjoys crafts/DIY/handmade and homemade things, introvert, enjoys one-on-one and small groups more than crowds.

Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and how?

It’s hard to choose… Michael and Melissa (married couple). They helped me get through the aftermath of a painful relationship and breakup last year. They listened to me, encouraged me, counseled me, and loved me. They shared their stories and spoke God’s truth to me constantly. They brought me into their home and treated me like one of the family. They are genuine, God-loving people who have a marriage that I aspire to emulate, and parent their children in ways I hope to imitate.

What contributed to your previous relationship/marriage ending?

My last relationship was from April 2019-March 2020. We got engaged and I broke it off after 2 weeks. My ex-fiancé proved to be extremely emotionally abusive, controlling, manipulative, and arrogant. He constantly blamed me for his problems and issues and gaslighted me. He turned me against my parents and tried to separate me from my family. I praise God for my father, who rescued me out of the mouth of the lion and saved me from a lifelong marriage of misery with this man…

How long have you been on your own since and what did you to do get through it?

It’s been almost a year since my last relationship ended. The Lord brought me to a very low, dark, painful place. I spent last summer living with friends in NC, ministering to families in the church, and soaking myself in godly fellowship. God used my parents, close friends (old and new), His Word, personal prayer time, lots of journaling, crying out to the Lord, and time, to help me process, grow, and heal. If you could put a timeline on healing, I’d say I’m 80% healed from my last relationship. But there still remains scars and flashbacks, regrets and shame, bad memories and fearful thoughts. I am resting in the Lord to help me continue to heal, move on, and trust him with another relationship and future marriage.

Favorite lines from movies, poems, songs, hymns or Scripture you would like to tell us about?

I love Psalm 37 and Habakuk 3.17-19.

Favorite book quotes:

Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts by Dr. Les Parrott and Dr. Leslie Parrott: “Communication is the lifeblood in marriage…One of the most important skills you can learn is how to talk so your mate will listen and how to listen so you mate will talk.”

“Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking together in same direction.” –Antoine De Saint-Exupery

Old Fashioned Girl by Louisa May Alcott: “When you feel out of sorts, try to make someone else happy, and you will soon be so yourself.”

Old Fashioned Girl by Louisa May Alcott: “Young  men often laugh at the sensible girls whom they secretly respect, and affect to admire the silly ones whom they secretly despise, because earnestness, intelligence, and womanly dignity are not the fashion.”

Elizabeth Prentiss by Sharon James: “But I find I love to have my own way, and that at the very moment I was asking God to appoint my work for me, I was secretly marking it out for myself. It is mortifying to find my will less in harmony with his than I thought it was, and that I want to prescribe to him how I shall spend the time, and the health and the strength which are his, not mine. But I will not rest until this struggle is over; till I can say with a smile, ‘Not my Will! But Thine!’”

Elizabeth Prentiss by Sharon James: “The more I reflect and the more I pray, the more life narrows down to one point—What am I being for Christ, what am I doing for Him? Why do I tell you this? Because the voice of a fellow-traveler always stimulates his brother-pilgrim; what one finds and speaks of and rejoices over, sets the other upon determining to find too.”

What type of work do/did you do?

Since I was about 16, I’ve worked at an ice cream shop, worked as secretary for my church, and did various housecleaning and nanny jobs. From March 2019-March 2020, I worked as a Mentor at a Christian children’s home in Eastern TN–I worked in a boys’ home homeschooling, cooking meals, playing and developing relationships with the boys, and taking them to activities and appointments.

My current job is Nanny to a 4.5 year old boy. I watch him 25 hours/week. I love talking with him, teaching him, playing with him, encouraging him, and learning from him. He had a lot of behavior issues when I first started watching him in October but, by God’s grace, he’s come a long way. I love working with children.

How long have you been/were you in that line of work? Do/you enjoy it?

I’ve been nannying this boy for 4 1/2 months, and will continue until May. I love it 🙂

Do you have any life-long goals? What are they?

Invest in my local church through discipleship and mentorship, learn calligraphy, improve my handwriting, and improve my homemade soap- and candle-making,

These are some of my ‘life-long hopes/prayers/desires’ 🙂 Get married, have kids, raise a family, care for my home, be a stay-at-home mom, homeschool my children

I’m very traditional and conservative in my views of marriage and the home.

Where were you born and where have you traveled?

I was born in Bremerton, WA. I’ve lived in Washington, Pennsylvania, New Jersey, Tennessee, and Massachusetts. I’ve visited those states plus Oregon, Michigan, New Hampshire, Vermont, Maine, Virginia, Maryland, North Carolina, South Carolina, and possibly some I’ve missed. I’ve traveled to Quebec, Ottawa, El Salvador, England, Scotland, Germany, The Netherlands, Rome, The Czech Republic, Austria, and Uganda. I went to El Salvador, The Czech Republic, and Uganda on mission trips (2 weeks, 1 week, and 11 months, respectively).

How do you enjoy your leisure time? What do you do for recreation?

I enjoy reading, writing (journaling, blogging, and writing letters), playing board games, spending time with my siblings (games, chatting, going out for coffee), thrift store shopping, making homemade candles, making homemade soap, listening to music, walking/hiking/exploring the outdoors, road trips, watching movies, cooking and baking, animals, and spending time with friends.

Is there anything that the questionnaire didn’t cover?

No

About Me

I am the second oldest of seven kids. I live at home with my parents and 5 younger siblings. My dad is an OPC pastor. I’m a nanny to a 4 1/2 year old boy. I went on a year-long mission trip to Uganda with OPC missionaries in 2017-2018. I currently have 19 chickens.

I am looking for a man who is theologically likeminded (Presbyterian), wants to have a family, is supportive of his children being homeschooled, is supportive of his wife being a stay-at-home mom, will faithfully hold a job, has a biblical (complementarian) view of marriage, respects parents (his and mine), is a strong spiritual leader, and there’s more… 🙂

(I am serious about marrying a man who is theologically likeminded, so please only contact me if you are Presbyterian. To all you Baptists out there–God bless you 🙂 )

My Interests

Reading, cooking, baking, DIY, raising chickens, growing herbs, playing games, walking/hiking, investing in friendships, spending time with siblings.

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