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Nickname

Joy

Gender

Female

Date of Birth

39 years, 2 months ago

Location

New York, NY, USA

Country

United States

Looking for

Male, Potential Courtship, A Date with Serious Intentions, Friendship, Marriage Minded, Blended Family

Marital Status

Single – Never Married

Christian Affiliation

Presbyterian Church in America (PCA)

Race

Asian

Height

5' 5"

Build

Extra Pounds

Eye Color

Black

Hair Color

Black

College /University

Lee University, ’05

University of Nevada, Las Vegas, ’09

Graduation Year

2009

Level of education

Masters

Employment

Unemployed

Occupation

I’ve done different things, from teaching kindergarten, being a research assistant, to working in a restaurant, teaching English as a second language, and being a nanny.

Seeking Ethnicity (those I am willing to date)

Any

My ideal place to live

On the coast

My view on smoking

I am a non-smoker

My view on drinking

I rarely drink

On the subject of children

I would like to have children one day, AND/OR would gladly accept others, I don't know/not sure/if God wills

Tell us about your family. How do you feel about relocating?

My immediate family consists of four brothers and a step dad. I have an aunt that I’m close to. I have close friends that are like family. And there’s my local church, the ultimate eternal family!

I suppose I can live most anywhere, really. I put on the coast as my ideal place to live, though I’ve never lived near a coast in my life. I can’t imagine not loving it, though. Then again, I can’t imagine not enjoying living in a farmhouse, either. Or even in the midst of the hustle and bustle of the City, which is where I live now.

 

How old were you when you were drawn to Christ and how is your Christian walk these days?

My whole family went to church for as long as I can remember. It was something that was just part of our weekly routine. There were no regular discussions about God or religion or how it applied to our daily lives. My mother, nonetheless, was a woman of faith. My father was a cultural Catholic. I had a sense of God as supreme but certainly not personal. It wasn’t until high school that I started learning about Christianity for myself and learning about the person of Jesus. There’s not a crystallized moment that I can pinpoint in my spiritual life when I could say I’d become a Christian then. It was a gradual thing, years of learning of my infinite need for Him and what He has done for me in Christ Jesus. And realizing that He has been pursuing me all along.

 

How have the Doctrines of Grace changed or affected your life?

Oh, gosh. It’s a catalyst in my ongoing spiritual migration from a Pentecostal-Charismatic tradition to the Reformed-Calvinist one. God in His graciousness and love has revealed Himself as not only supreme, not only wise, but also infinitely loving and good. I’ve come from believing that God is my co-pilot, to believing that He is emphatically not my co-pilot, there to ensure that I “live my best life”, but that He is King of everything. That He doesn’t join my story. He IS the story. Through the doctrines of grace, God has revealed that He isn’t a domesticated god, as I use to think of Him. Kinda scary, to be honest, learning and knowing this untamed God. What a sweet relief to know He’s good too! 🙂

Do you have a "Quiet Time?" What are you studying?

My quiet time is irregular. I believe devotions, prayer, meditation, etc. is essential to Christian formation. It’s not just a matter of getting the right doctrines in our head. These truths need to warm the heart. A regular quiet time helps with that. I’m thankful I’m in a parachurch program that seeks to form that habit in its students. If not, I’d be completely undisciplined with this practice.

I’m currently reading a bunch of books through the program, from Justo Gonzales’s Church History, Bonhoeffer’s Life Together, Murray’s Redemption Accomplished and Applied (still recovering, LOL), some Kuyper, N.T. Wright, Ince, Tim Keller, etc. I don’t normally sustain this type of reading regimen for a continuous period of time, though I love to read. It’s to do with the Faith and Work program I’m currently enrolled in.

Who is your favorite Biblical Character and why?

I love Leah. I’ve loved her since I heard a Tim Keller sermon about her. She’s the overlooked one, completely overshadowed by her beautiful sister. But God sees her and it mattered to Him, the great God of the universe, that she was unloved. It never fails to touch me.

 

I also love Job. His is just an extraordinary story, really. I’m amazed at Job’s boldness and freedom in expressing his grief and misery. Job is also the guy that God cross-examined, in a way, and lived to tell the tale. Definitely part of my fascination with him. Every time I get around to that part where God asks “Where were you when I laid the foundations of the earth?”, I’m always both chilled and thrilled. Poor Job. 🙂

 

I love Jonathan because of his love and his fidelity to David. And for his unselfishness and humility. He was the king’s son yet he gladly stepped aside for David. He is also often overlooked but what a man he was. Jonathan is the friend that sticks closer than a brother. That is a rare treasure.

Are you content being single? Why? If not, why?

I am content, for the most part. I do desire to be married and I don’t think that desire belies my contentment. I’m also really curious. 🙂

I recently read this delightful line from the inimitable G. K. Chesterton:

Marriage is a duel to the death which no man of honour should decline.” Hah!

What are four qualities your friends would attribute to you?

I should ask them, really. I think they would say that I’m idealistic, warm, self-assured, absentminded. Actually I’ve heard them describe me as such in the course of our friendship. I don’t always agree with their pronouncements but I’ve learned that how we see ourselves isn’t always how our friends see us. And also, different people pull out different things from us. Some bring out the worst. Some bring out the best.

What are three things you are most thankful for?

What am I thankful for? How can I ever put it into words? Impossible. I have the “love of God, the fellowship of Christ, and heaven thrown in.”

I am really thankful for my friends. What would I do without them?

Is there anything that the questionnaire didn’t cover?

Are you kidding? There is now no doubt in my mind that this is a Reformed dating site. Only Calvinists would endure this kind of torture! It’s like when your professor hands out the required reading list, and some smart aleck asks for some supplementary reading. Good grief… 😀

 

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