|Date of Birth||
41 years, 5 months ago
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Divorced – with children
|Level of education||
Marriage and Family Therapist
Lifeline Youth and Family Services
|Seeking Ethnicity (those I am willing to date)||
|My ideal place to live||
On the coast
|My view on smoking||
I might not mind a pipe or cigar
|My view on drinking||
I drink occasionally
|On the subject of children||
I have children and would gladly accept someone elses's
|Tell us about your family. How do you feel about relocating?||
I am a single mom of three beautiful children, ages 9, 8 and 5. When my license is complete, (I currently am applying for an associate license that requires supervision and hours to be completed before I can apply for full licensing) then I am open to relocation.
|How old were you when you were drawn to Christ and how is your Christian walk these days?||
I became a Christian at age 13 through the discipleship ministry of a deacon at a church I was attending
My walk with Christ has its ups and downs as there is the constant working of the spirit in me. The spirit reveals to me the love and mercy of my God as well as convicts me of my indwelling sin. Each person of the trinity plays an integral role in the shaping of my daily walk.
To my Father, I cry out in my need in my helplessness. I turn to him when I seek provision.
To my brother and chief Elder Jesus, I have a constant experience of solidarity, when I have the right heart to see it. He has lived without sin and understands every temptation. When I stumble, when I run headlong into sin with a hard heart, it is his wounds that have already paid my debit and make it such that I can reconcile, if I will be reconciled.
My father is rich in both justice and mercy.
The Spirit that comes to comfort, convict to move in and though the messiness of me and this world. This is perhaps the most enigmatic part of my walk s a Christian but no less real for the ways words elude me in trying to voice the experience.
|How have the Doctrines of Grace changed or affected your life?||
I tend towards being a 5 point-er and have for many years. But am not settled in that position. The Reformed perspective doesn’t make full use of the scriptures speak of the wooing of humanity. And it is a point well made that they may be taking the analogy of “deadness” in the scriptures too literally. So I struggle to circle the square. Having said that, broadly speaking the Reformed doctrines encourages a high and holy view of a sovereign and merciful God and this resonates with me.
|Do you have a "Quiet Time?" What are you studying?||
I am not a structured person so I do not have a set time. I pray before getting out of bed each morning….well most mornings. M
|Who is your favorite Biblical Character and why?||
I love Paul! His road to Damascus. experience was amazing. And his single focus on Christ thereafter is breathtaking.
|Are you content being single? Why? If not, why?||
Paul, tells us that being married and being single are each their own gifts. I have come to believe that this is so at the level of intellectual assent. This season of my life is by God’s design , for His glory and for my good.
Some days I connect with this truth about God better than others.
While I am able to wrap my head around singleness, the honest answer is that I hope to marry. Being single often chafes.
Marriage is a wonderful institution. If it had been up to me, I would not have divorced, we would have pursued repentance and reconciliation. However he did not repent, (there was clearly a Biblical necessity for him to repent) and would not be reconciled to God or to me. Despite the dissolution of my marriage, I remain enamored.
Marriage is wonderful. I take great pleasure in the camaraderie, division of labor, pooling of resources, the necessity to compromise, physical affection (including but not limited to sexual affection), and a host of other facets of married life.
I am discontent enough as a single person to actively search for a covenant partner.
I am content enough as a single woman, to be unwilling to covenant with a partner who is not well suited to Biblical covenant with a woman like me.
|What are four qualities your friends would attribute to you?||
|What are three things you are most thankful for?||
I am thankful for my family both immediate and extended, my history/past, and my sense of calling to ministry.
|Describe the character and personality traits you enjoy in another person? What are yours?||
I am drawn to men who are drawn deeply into the exploration and practice of theology. Deep theology is an area of passionate interest for me that I hope to share in a future marriage. I desire a man who is well read or is pursuing becoming well read, and enjoys conversation about the things of God from the patristics to the contemporary. I am loyal and value loyalty in others. I am intellectually curious and verbally communicative and enjoy these traits in others. I am a thoughtful, driven, loving woman. I need a man who can provide strong, leadership. I can get stuck in my head and so it would be good for me to find a man who is both incisive and confident who can temper these traits with patience to encourage and grow me as a godly wife.
|Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and how?||
This is a lengthy and personal discussion for me. Happy to share as part of getting to know one another. There have been a few key mentors in my life.
|What contributed to your previous relationship/marriage ending?||
My husband was engaged in pornography use. His pornography engagement lead to exchanging videos/pictures/email with men and women on the internet. Eventually this behavior lead to him meeting men and women for hook-ups, short term affairs and eventually shacking up with another swinger. At every turn I advocated for reconciliation but he would not. He continued meeting men and women and eventually left me and the kids to live with a woman who was willing to swing with him.
|How long have you been on your own since and what did you to do get through it?||
I have been separated for 5 years divorced for 4. I had tremendous family, friends and spiritual supports that helped me get through my divorce.
|Favorite lines from movies, poems, songs, hymns or Scripture you would like to tell us about?||
It is well with my soul. Tough I currently am a member at a church that exclusively uses a Psalter. Still not sure I am in agreement with the Regulative Principal of Worship but I am learning to love singing the Psalms. I have many favorite quotes from the movie the Shawshank redemption and Chariots of Fire.
|What type of work do/did you do?||
I a Marriage and Family Therapist
|How long have you been/were you in that line of work? Do/you enjoy it?||
I have been in mental health for 4 years and yes I love it.
|Do you have any life-long goals? What are they?||
Let’s talk about this as we get to know one another. Yes I have goals.
|Where were you born and where have you traveled?||
Born in CA. Grew up in AZ. Have lived in several states as an adult. Traveled to central Mexico. Would love the opportunity to travel more!
|How do you enjoy your leisure time? What do you do for recreation?||
I am an avid road cyclist. I like to read, cook, bake, garden and renovate homes And spend time with friends.
|Is there anything that the questionnaire didn’t cover?||
If you struggle with pornography use or sexual infidelity, please do us both a favor and ask yourself the follow questions.
1. Are you already engaged with your church in robust accountability that will lead to biblical church discipline If you ever gave yourself over/were apathetic about about changing this habituated pattern of sin in your life would you be willing to seek out such accountability.
2. If yes to the first part if the above, have you found this kind of accountability, in conjunction with the Holy spirit, to be an effective means of convicting you of your sin and prompting you to a heart/behavior change. (If yes that is great!)
3. If no to number 1, would you be willing to engage in the process outlined as part of the dating/courtship process? (If no, please do not seek me out)
4. If your are still reading this, can you/have you navigate this corrective process while still maintaining a sex-positive mindset. Sex positive means that you believe sex is a good, a holy gift for bonding, pleasure reproduction, that flourishes within the covenant context? (If yes that is a good sign)
5. Does your moral view on sex and procreation allow yo to be with a woman who has had her tubes tied for medical reasons? (If yes this is a good sign)
6. Do I have you have your heart set on having biological children (If yes, please do not reach out to me, as this is not an option)
7. Are you willing to have a wife who does not believe in personal privacy within the covenant of marriage? Which is to say everything we have is all ours? This includes access to all internet accounts, all financial accounts, all homes and other material goods? Do you believe that within covenant all is shared and all is God’s? (If not, then we will not be well suited. This is still true of me despite that fact that operating this way left me with less resources to start over with after my divorce. Even so, I believe that the one-flesh union is complete! We are both all-in, or it will never work)
Follower of Christ, single-mom, master’s student, mental health worker. I live a busy and full life. If you are an aimless man wandering through life, looking for a Godly woman to fix you and give you direction, please look elsewhere. I am totally open to a man who is godly, motivated and broken in places as we all are. I would not be well suited to the man who is generally dithering and hoping a good wife can help/make him get it together. I think it wise for me to find a man who has a well-devloped sense of himself so that we work together.
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