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First Name

James

Username

Clevername97

Nickname

Clevername97

Gender

Male

Location

Santa Monica, CA, USA

Country

United State

State

California

City

Santa Monica

Zip

90401

Looking for

Potential Courtship, A Date with Serious Intentions, Marriage Minded

Marital Status

Single – Never Married

Christian Affiliation

Calvinistic, Reformed, Reformed Baptist

Race

Caucasian

Height

5' 10"

Build

Athletic

Eye Color

Hazel

Hair Color

Brown

College /University

Masters

Graduation Year

1996

Level of education

Some College

Employment

Full Time

Occupation

IT specialist/Actor

Company

private

Seeking Ethnicity (those I am willing to date)

Any

My ideal place to live

On the coast

My view on smoking

I don't smoke and I don't like to be around smokers

My view on drinking

I rarely drink

On the subject of children

I would like to have children one day, AND/OR would gladly accept others

Tell us about your family. How do you feel about relocating?

My eldest brother lives 3 hours away, my middle bro lives in Oregon, the rest of my family is scattered around California and back East. I have no children and could relocate for the right lady, if that was the best godly plan for us

How old were you when you were drawn to Christ and how is your Christian walk these days?

I grew up in the visible church and had a few ‘alter call’ and summer camp experiences, but it wasn’t until my sr. year of high school when I finally surrended to His lordship that I was truly saved; my walk today has its ups and downs but I rest purely in His Sovereignty and Lordship as it has blessed me and changed me beyond measure

How have the Doctrines of Grace changed or affected your life?

Haha I started out as an Arminian Evidentialist, and now I’m an Reformed Baptist Presuppositionalist . But ultimately its not about my doctrine, but about His Kingship. According to my depravity I would be totally lost w/out Him. I know that nothing is true if He is not true, and only by His light, do we see light. The DOG (Doctrine of Grace) have provided a comfort and stability to seeing the world in chapter and verse

Do you have a "Quiet Time?" What are you studying?

scripture at breakfast or before the gym, theology/devotional books at night, sometimes fiction. Right now I’m studying Edenic temple theology spreading unto the whole earth via the gospel (G.K. Beale), Distinctiveness of Baptist Covenant Theology by Pascal Denault, a Mountain theology book about Leviticus (thanks to a gift from my friend in Malaysia!) books by Piper, MacArthur (JohnnyMac), Van Til, Bahnsen, even some C.S. Lewis. I also like superhero graphic novels, lol!

Who is your favorite Biblical Character and why?

Christ first, Paul, David. I really relate to Paul’s conversion, his absolute manner of trying to hold every thought captive to Christ as Lord, and his desire for the gentiles, though he said he would volunteer himself to be damned if it were to mean his fellow Jews could all be saved. I can relate to David’s struggles, and his passion for God hits me in my heart.

Are you content being single? Why? If not, why?

I am and I’m not. Paul calls us that whatever station we are at in life, to make the most of it glorifying God and to be content. However, God made Eve for Adam and said it is not good for man to be alone. I do not idolize marriage, but God def. designed me for it, and I see it as a symbolic reflection of our relationship with Him in His covenant, the closeness and intimacy. I’m also a little hostile to the ‘netflix n chill’ attitude coming out of the ‘young, restless, and reformed’ camp (New Calvinism?) that thinks a life long pursuit of loneliness w/ lots of cats and starbucks living alone in an apartment is “God’s normal and default calling”. Sorry if that’s a little bold. Also, I definitely don’t have the gift of singleness, and I would enjoy having one person to have a special ministry to, companionship, and worshiping God together and raising godly children.

What are four qualities your friends would attribute to you?

Boldness, humor, kindness, perceptiveness

What are three things you are most thankful for?

God dredging me up from the depths, delicious tacos & pizza (and health food lol), and exercising in beautiful nature

Describe the character and personality traits you enjoy in another person? What are yours?

A woman drawn to God’s heart. She’s a best-friend madly in love w/ her man. She understands what it means to be both emotionally available and faithfully devoted. Her heart was built to be deeply adored. She’s playful and fun. She wants a man who’s valiant, bold, knows what he wants, and will defend you. Is family very important to you? Do you love to laugh? Interested in a dude who doesn’t take himself too seriously? Do you believe that everything happens for a reason? Isn’t it better to light a candle than to curse the darkness?

Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and how?

My best friend who’s been there for me for the last 23 years, has had some great insight into life, and encouraging me to be a better man. His marriage helped shape some of my views on dating, marriage, and what it means to have good companionship and friendship. My youth pastor was also hugely influential in me coming to salvation and was a strong, godly man and mentor.

What contributed to your previous relationship/marriage ending?

Over time it came out that she hadn’t completely let go of her ex-husband, and I was concerned for her daughter’s welfare and didn’t want to put her through a big upheaval again.

How long have you been on your own since and what did you to do get through it?

It’s been 4 years and I’ve focused on my relationship w/ God, family, work, church. I’ve met a few ladies since, but they weren’t matches

Favorite lines from movies, poems, songs, hymns or Scripture you would like to tell us about?

John 8:32 has been a lifelong favorite, Hebrews 13:20-21, because it has: The gospel, the covenant, Christ, everything. Its rich and beautiful! “Live as if you’ll die tomorrow; dream as if you’ll live forever” “A man chases a woman until she catches him” “truth has nothing to fear from investigation” “Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep”. ~life’s like a movie-write your own ending-keep believing-keep pretending-this is what we all set out to do-thanks to the lovers-the dreamers-and you~  “Many that live deserve death, some that die deserve life: can you give it to them? Do not be too eager to deal out death and judgment; even the very wise cannot see *all* ends. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us. There are other forces at work in this world besides the will of evil, and that is an encouraging thought”

What type of work do/did you do?

I work as a consultant and systems administrator for large server environments and clients, I also now and then do creative work as acting, writing, dabbling in video editing

How long have you been/were you in that line of work? Do/you enjoy it?

I’ve been in the technology industry for about 20 years and just as long in acting, I enjoy both. I’m a people person, so I like aspects of computer work where I help people

Do you have any life-long goals? What are they?

family, my own business

Where were you born and where have you traveled?

Sunny California near Santa Barbara and I’ve visited Mexico (missions trip), Australia, New Zealand, South Korea (obviously not North, heh) Russia

Is there anything that the questionnaire didn’t cover?

Don’t sweat the small stuff. A relationship is ongoing work (like a garden.) Put yourself in the others shoes, be a good listener, it’s not all about you.. If someone tries changing you, they don’t accept you for who you are. People need to relax, not take themselves so seriously and just enjoy each other. If both acknowledge Christ as their center, then everything else fits into place. We’d be supportive team-mates having each others backs (I would gently lead).. part of a great relationship is motivating each other to excellence

About Me

Because God chose me, I want to honor and love Him with my life. I value integrity and enthusiasm, and dig kind, caring people. Being romantic, creative, and devoted is what I’m about. To quote Bill & Ted: Be excellent to each other! Insider Info: I’m a naturally curious and passionate person, interested in just about everything, and living life to the full, to God’s glory. A mix of intellectual/serious + fun-loving/kid-at-heart dude. I believe in long(er) courtships, and short(er) engagements. I love my country and I’m a real, open and honest person. Being an honorable man in doing what you say and having integrity is where its at. People remember you not for what you say, but what you do. I’m details oriented and sentimental. I tend to date younger. I’m not here to collect matches, but also don’t want to rush to find the right person. Being whole, ready to be whole with another, I desire someone to care for, pray with, be companions with, and inspire. I’m an old-soul, and growing up watching some of the old classics, I watched how my father treats my mother; they’re best friends and he often did nice sweet things for her. He has a great sense of humor too 🙂 Oh and lest I forget, I am THE most humble person you’ll ever meet, hands down. Its not even up to a vote. What I like most about myself is my humility hehe 😉

My Interests

I’ve been reading up lately on men being real-men again, and its refreshing and I’m really enjoying it. I enjoy building and fixing things and cooking. Traveling to Australia, Mexico (Missions trip) and Russia recently. Learning about other cultures, customs, and languages is very interesting. Reading a good novel, writing, dabbling with music, movies, surfing! Going to the gym,…Um.. what else? Eating healthy, but also Pizza or Mexican! FYI, I have a lot of energy. What will I do and accomplish in the next five years? be promoted to manager, and meet a wonderful godly lady

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